Couple kissing

Imagine this: It's your first date and instead of the usual questions "Where are you from?" and "What do you do for a living?," you ask each other 36 very intimate questions over the course of 90 minutes, then stare into each other's eyes for four minutes without saying a word to hopefully, possibly, most likely fall in love.

Well, Mandy Len Catron did this on her first date with a's a study psychologist Dr. Arthur Aron conducted that has proven to make strangers fall in love and I'm so intrigued.

Catron says the questions start simple with things like "Would you like to be famous? And in what way?" And then quickly become probing by asking you to name three things you like about your partner.

It's incredible to think about all these questions that are never asked on a first date. Instead, we focus on surface questions that are easy to ask but don't let you in on who someone really is and what they're about.

And the best part? The four-minute staring. A real, soul melting staring contest. No talking, just gazing into each other's eyes while trying to mask your likely uncomfortable state of having to hold eye contact with someone you just met for four freaking minutes.
Sound intimidating? Catron said this about it: 

"I know the eyes are the windows to the soul or whatever, but the real crux of the moment was not just that I was really seeing someone, but that I was seeing someone really seeing me."

So would you do it? I would, it totally beats a normal date. 

You can read about Catron's date here and find out if they ended up falling l-o-v-e.


  1. I'm really curious how this would work with a current partner...will you fall in love more!?

  2. Wonderful Post, I highly appreciate those people who share some good information, because I like those people who actually share :).




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