My first date, which I've written about here, may have been the worst thing to happen since Amanda Bynes' undercut according to my so called life circa 2004.
And it was on that date, after the waitress came by and glared at me with disgust as she picked up my plate of refried beans and enchiladas I hardly touched (because I was too nervous to eat), that she dropped off the bill. Right in between us. Awk.Ward.
I didn't really know what to do other than reach for my wallet. And I sure as hell wasn't about to assume he was paying for the meal I didn't eat...because I'm not that tYpE of girl.
So as I reached for my wallet in my super awesome Roxy purse, he said "put that away, it's on me." Which is English for: "Really, bitch? Just this one time."
Since then, I've always practiced proper reach-for-the-cash-iquette, but I'll be honest, there were times I felt bold (well liquored) and didn't reach for my wallet. But that didn't exactly land me dinner at Morton's on the second date either.
So to go halfsies or to not? I don't think there is a divide between men and women or women and women or men and men that says one of you should always pay the bill. It's not like it's the 1950s anymore, psh, right? Like, we are women, hear us roar? We have jobs. We vote. We is kind, we is smart, we is important! We SHOULD be paying the bill, right?! Haha, okay maybe on the second date...
Here is some etiquette to follow. No pressure (caveat: if the person you're dating never offers to pay for your meal or even offer to pay his/her half, refuse to pay the bill)(I'm serious):