Wednesday, November 7, 2012

Things newly single people need to get over

Things you shouldn't obsess over when newly single

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Did you know that having a fear of being single is an actual condition? It’s called anuptaphobia. It’s what those people who go back and forth between “single,” “it’s complicated” and “in a relationship” on Facebook have. Isn’t that cool? Now you can post this on your friends wall! JK.

So to all you people who are afraid of dumping your no-good girlfriend/boyfriend because you’re afraid of losing your cuddle buddy and to all you people who just got out of relationships and are claiming your life is over and you’re going to end up alone: get over yourselves.

You're not going to be bored - you will have a life: I don't know what kind of books you're reading that give you the idea single people sit around playing Life and answering questions on Formspring all the time. Single people have busy lives, and in fact, they're probably busier than you were when you were dating what’s-his-name. Just think of all the free time you will have to do that stuff you always wanted to do but put off for lazy Sunday's with your ex. You could probably build a thousand Popsicle stick bird houses in the time you spent being "lazy."

You're not ugly: Oh gee, you just got dumped, and now you suddenly look like Roseanne Barr. Right, because that makes sense. You look exactly like you did yesterday so stop complaining about how you think “no one will want you.”

You're NOT a loser: Being single doesn't make you a loser, asshole! There are a lot of intelligent, law-abiding, charity donating, single people in this world who will kick your ass if you keep calling yourself (aka, all the other single people) a loser.

You're not a failure: There's nothing wrong with you other than the pity party you keep throwing for yourself. Not everything works out, and just because this person wasn't your soul mate doesn't mean you're tainted and un-dateable. Hasn’t your mother ever told you that if you’re dating the wrong person, you can’t find the right person? Or maybe that was Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants that said that…I don’t know, who cares.

You WILL meet someone: News flash! Single people are not extinct! They're still out there making eHarmony profiles and text message dumping people they're not into. Get over it, you WILL go on dates. According to some study made by some dude, there are 102 million single people in the world, so think about that!

Have you/do you ever fear being single?

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16 comments :

  1. I have brief moments of singleton fear when society is dictating to me that I should be in a relationship... hell there's even a 82 year old man that visits my place of work to find out how many women I haven't hooked up with and then gives me his words of wisdom to act like a python in a church somewhere. Then I realise that it was probably some dude somewhere invoking fear in women in order to get some that led society to that point and become a right trooper again. Loving your post btw (8-P)

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    1. Thanks Jamie. And yes, I don't understand society's fascination with being coupled up. No one should be defined by a relationship.

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  2. Not at all, Jessica. I loved being single, and sometimes, I still miss it.

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    1. I agree. Being single is great and it's irritating when people are anti-single or have an uppity attitude about their non-single lives.

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  3. Society seems to have this idea that you're not a worthwhile human being unless you're paired off.
    Society can get bent.
    I'm single and wouldn't want it any other way.
    Excellent post by the way.

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    1. Thanks D. Yes, I agree. Being single has nothing to do with who you are, what you're capable of and what you've accomplished. People are not defined by their relationships and I think a lot of people pass judgement on those who chose to live "frivolous" lives. It's not even like that.

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  4. I often suffer from being in a relationship and wishing I was single, being single has incredible freedom, is far less predictable, and is usually much more exciting.

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    1. This is true! Spontaneity, excitement, freedom - why would anyone not enjoy that?

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  5. Another great post, Jessica!
    I love being single. I loved being in couple too, but being single gives me another dimension to my freedom. You don't have to consult your partner before doing anything, you want it? You get it! I don't understand people who think that being single is like having an incurable disease, or them looking at you as if you were the unluckiest person in the world. Ummm no. There is life after a breakup and every single person should make the best of it and celebrate!

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    1. Thanks, Colette!And yes, it's another dimension of freedom. Both are great but people need to stop hating on the single life!

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  6. Why have you published the picture of Angelina Jolie with this article. She is not Single. The first impression i got after reading this article was that Angelina and Brad has broken up!!!

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    1. Sorry! I just liked the pic of her from the 90s, but I assure you they're still together! At least I think...

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  7. yeah i googled it after reading your article,, and yes they are very much together :)

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  8. I absolutely agree with this post. What usually happens also is (some of) these singles are blind of the fact that there's a lot to learn from dating sites like this and fastcupid on how they will overcome heartbreak.

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  9. It can be hard to end a relationship, especially one that's lasted awhile. Sometimes it feels like you cut off your arm or something - it's strange for awhile.
    However, it always turns out that the freedom and hope that comes with being single always trumps the unhappiness that comes with being stuck in a not-so-hot relationship.

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  10. Being single can be fun and good learning experience especially if you've been in a relationship for a long time. It's easy to get lost in someone else's ideas and habits. This can be a time to just be you.

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