Do your friends opinions matter?
4/9/12
Photo by Byrant Eslava
Do your friends opinions really matter?
Hell fucking yeah they do.
How many times have your friends rolled their eyes when you
mention your girlfriend who’s cheated on you twice? How many times do your
friends listen in complete silence while you gush about your boyfriend who has
a history of getting wasted and then drunk dialing his dentist, punching a bartender and getting a few numbers from sorority chicks before ending up in jail for the
night?
You're so infatuated, though.
When you date someone, it's as if the world is one big
cupcake and you're just jumpin’ on the icing like it’s a giant trampoline – there
are sprinkles flyin' everywhere and your feet are covered in sugar, but you don’t
care. You're oohing and ahhing at kitschy bullshit that's heart-shaped and in
the same color family as red and you’ve been humming “kiss from a rose” by Seal
for two weeks.
You are SO infatuated.
But what if this person isn't that great? Yeah, maybe she
listens to you when you tell stories (good in bed) and yeah, maybe he opens the
car door and gives you his jacket when it's cold out (good in bed), but what
about the times this person made you feel nauseated and did things you swore
"if anyone ever did that to me, I’d leave their ass."
It happens to everyone, but where you go wrong is when you
stop listening to your friends.
Don't you care that your friends or family don't enjoy being
around this person? Don't you care that when you invite them over to your house
for Monopoly night they say they’re busy, but they’re really at home tweeting
about a Double Dare marathon that’s on?
I care. I care that you don't care.
I care because your friends should love the person you're
infatuated with. And no, don't tell me you don't care about what anyone thinks, shut up. You're an adult and as long as you live, you're always going to need a
support group in your life (family, friends, co-workers - your nail lady -
whoever). On nights when you find out your boyfriend is flirting with some hoe
bag on Facebook, again, who are you going to call? Your friends, duh. But
they can only take so much. They can only take so much before they start
rolling their eyes and sitting in silence. Advice and care will stop and you
definitely don't want to lose friends over a girl who didn’t know North
America was a continent (good in bed).
You're better than that.
Listen to your friends because they're right. I know you're in love
and you care about that person, but if your friends keep repeating the same
things over and over and over again, it's not because they are spineless jerks
who don't get along with anyone (they get along with YOU) and want you to be
miserable, it's because they don't want to see you hurting, okay?
So take what they say into
consideration, and live a healthy lifestyle, emotionally.
2 comments
I got a kick out of this post :)
ReplyDeleteI think the funnies thing you said was:
She may also become extra needy since she doesn't have a good friend to talk to about her period and stuff. The more you know. Just letting you know.
lol
Angie, I'm glad you got a kick out of that, thank you!! :]
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