Saturday, October 30, 2010

The difference between dating boys and men

The difference between dating boys and men
Photograph by Ryan Lusteg


It’s more common seeing young girls dating older men today. No, I’m not talking about a 22 year-old-girl dating a 65 year-old-man (and if you are, trust me, the silver foxiness can only go so far until you’re having “lavish” dinners during senior discount hours). I mean a mere difference of about three to five years.

Money, fat bonuses and wanting a place to move into because he's successful with a penthouse can be lucrative, but that’s gold digger talk.
This doesn't mean you have to be wearing a dress suit all the time, I’m referring to substantial matter like maturity, which doesn’t always come with age, sometimes it comes with life experience (and no, not all young guys are in this category).

A man knows what he wants whereas a boy will date anything and everything. Yes, dating is about sampling what’s out there, but women aren't a buffet and life isn't The Sizzler. Deep down, you know what you want, so keeping a girl around for the sake of hooking up is asshole behavior. A respectable girl—you know, the one you’re okay with introducing to your mom—won’t sleep with you just because you paid for popcorn and called her cute. Anyway, all you're really getting from popcorn girl is a bad reputation and probably Chlamydia.

A man actually calls you or at least, texts you, as opposed to asking you out over Facebook. This modern romance is making everyone lazy. Oh, and animated graphic roses do not equate to giving a girl flowers.

A man is cordial, so after you breakup, he says hi when he spots you at the grocery store as opposed to ignoring you and telling his friends you're terrible in bed because he's bitter.
He is responsible and spends his money on real matters, or is at least saving most of it for those soon-to-be real matters, as opposed to blowing every paycheck on new video games and Taco Bell.

A boy is one person in front of his friends and another when you're alone (not so good vs. good). Cut the bullshit. A man knows the value of a woman, therefore, doesn't take her for granted.

A man doesn't sleep with you the first night (there are few exceptions, like, there's a gun to your head and you may never see this possible "love of your life" again) and vice versa. With exceptions aside, and he does, he really wants to know your thread count, not what your interests are. He also probably had nothing in common with you and after you sleep with him, you may never hear from him again, at least before 2 a.m.

He actually see's daylight on the weekends and has real hobbies other than girls and getting drunk.

A man takes you on a date that entails getting to know one another sans his buddies basement, red cups, black lights and drunk college freshmen.

He is independent and actually has a job, or is at least actively pursuing his career. Mommy and Daddy shouldn't be paying for your dates.

A boy talks about how many women he's been with too soon. A man is discrete: he keeps his mouth shut and his sexual health in-check.

A man knows how to do his laundry and he does it, not his mom. It's nice she does it when you visit, but if you're sending it home every weekend with notes on top of your hamper mentioning what needs to be dry cleaned and ironed, you need to realize she's not your maid, she's your mother.

These are indeed amenities in relationships. Who’s to say you can’t meet someone your own age—hell, maybe even younger—and fall in love? This is just justification for the non-gold diggers out there who are over their own age group.

8 comments :

  1. I'm glad not ALL girls like the duche bag. (or as you called them "boys") I guess the world isn't completely hopeless...

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  2. A man knows what he wants whereas a boy will date anything and everything. Yes, dating is about sampling what’s out there, but women aren't a buffet and life isn't The Sizzler.

    lOVE

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  3. Oh I can't get enough of "a good guy"! Bad boys are just that...bad as hell! Nice guys don't finish last in my book!

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  4. @JBUDD Life is too short for child's play

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  5. You said it yourself, a man knows what he wants. That's why you can't find us. We're already dating someone.

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  6. Think you'd like this:

    http://theessentialmanguide.com/post/505751068/the-angry-therapist-on-men-vs-boys

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  7. hi, new to the site, thanks.

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