Photograph by Eylul Aslan
Don't lie; whether you're a man, woman, cat or dog, you love the chase. There's something about a person that you know nothing about that makes you want to know more.

So what is it about the chase that is so enthralling to many? Some say it's because men are natural born hunters, others say it's because it's light and carefree; a lack of responsibility to just one person, if you will.

Maybe you don't know what it is exactly. Maybe you chase for reasons that are mildly frowned upon like if they're forbidden (in a relationship) or seemingly impossible to get and getting is the prize.

Other reasons why people are all about it? Chasing a person is fun. You know nothing about them like whether or not they're crazy, an ex-con, addicted to sniffing glue or into weird fetishes. At this point, they’re perfect in your eyes and can do no wrong except mismatch socks, but you'd probably still find that cute.

That giddy feeling is exciting when your phone lights up unexpectedly (regardless of the fact that it's usually your mom); the one time it's that person, you just about melt because to you, they bit the bait. Alas, victory.

However, chasing can be irritating. Being inaccessible, mysterious and intriguing, it's endearing and by endearing, I mean it can literally drive you insane. Especially when someone doesn't have a Facebook. Talk about stalk block.

Seemingly, the person is unreal and you're dying to know more as if your childhood celebrity crush on one of the Hansen brothers is coming to life, minus the Mmmbop. Making it difficult to get to know the real Hansen brothers, there were only so many J-14 Magazines revealing important information like their favorite ice cream flavors (maybe that's why my childhood celebrity crushes lasted so long and my real crushes are so short lived).

Yes, the adult thing to do is to commence normal courtship, but where's the fun in that? Who wants everything at once? Showing too much interest in the beginning leads to thoughts of neediness anyway. Who really want's to act their age and not play stupid mind games with each other? Get real. It's like trying to catch a fish with your bare hands. Let's just hope that when you catch it, it's not Chicken of the Sea.

Regardless, whether you want to admit it or not, you love the chase as well as being chased. It's thrilling. You know you want it and until you get it, you aren't going to stop. At least until you find out their weird fetishes on Facebook.


  1. How very true! In addition, I guess some women who prefer to be mistresses secretly just love the chase and they can't help it.

  2. Great writing and very true. Thanks for the request on 20sb, I am glad it led me to your blog!


    Hannah Katy

  3. I can't say I like being the chaser. I'm very old-fashioned in that sense. I love being chased, so long as there's a follow-through of actual commitment.

    Sadly, the last time I was chased, the guy was only interested in one thing. Funny that he would spend so much time on the chase, if he fully intended to leave me after he got what he wanted.

  4. I totally love the chase. and even better, being chased.

  5. I admit it, I love being chased.

    "Stalk blocking" - I literally laughed out loud.

  6. I stopped chasing a long time ago.

    I like the I don't give a fuck attitude.

    And if I want a lady I usually say I want that point her out to someone I am with and talk to her.


  7. I always LOVED being the chaser. In fact, any time a guy was chasing me I had no interest. Bizarre.

  8. Hi there- great blog. I dig all of your photos.

  9. 'That giddy feeling is exciting when your phone lights up unexpectedly (regardless of the fact that it's usually your mom); the one time it's that person, you just about melt because to you, they bit the bait. Alas, victory.'

    Preach, baybeh!




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